A guy I knew in school died last Friday. Cian was a good bass player and singer (I was in a band with him for a while), and it's a shame that he died so young (he was only 23).
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I once had a friend die. It's funny, you never once think that it would happen to you, as I am sure the person who passed thought. He hung himself from a tree, in the woods behind a place that our friends gathered every Friday night for bonfires and booze. The reason for this, no one knows but him, as he knew all to well. I don't think I ever looked at life in the same way after hearing the phone ring that day. There are no words of comfort, no memories, good and bad, that don't make you cry at the most awkward of times. All you can do is whatever gets you through the day. I used to dream about him, like he was still here. I don't dream about him anymore, partially because it hurt too much at the time. But now I find myself wanting those dreams back. So I guess the only thought I have is to not ever push the thoughts and dreams away. To drudge through them until you can smile. The pain never goes away, just stops hurting so much.
Mannnnnnnnnn, I love Cian, he was so cool. We were going to open a bar on Koh Phanghan with that bastard, We still tell Cian stories on the Island. He was legendary on his visit and we all just loved him so much. Damm
Cousin Cian, rest in peace, all is well. I never had the pleasure of meeting you, but your Grandad John, and my Mom Josie were brother & Sister. Happy belated B'day, and enjoy your new eternal Life, God Bless, love Kathleen (Brosnan) O'Malley xxx
I came back to this page because its my only connect with Cian. The additional comments were a sweet surprise, bringing tears I couldn't stop. I was just wondering, what happened to Robbie? I thought they were best friends, He was supposed to get in touch with us. Is anyone available to pass this on to him? I have a message about his Sensi. It would be really cool to hear some of Cian's music, any help on that? Blessings to the family, Cian will always be a shining star.
Krista, Robbie was Cian's best man when he married Sunny from China in April 2004 just before he travelled to Thailand. If you have an address we can keep in touch. I will pass on your remarks... have you an email....? Cian's Dad
I grew up with Cian in Trim. He was an amazing person. In my whole life i've met two people who could genuinely be rock stars, and Cian was one of them.
I remember about a year ago and i met him in Bus Aras. we were so busy chatting that the last bus home departed without us. We just shrugged our shoulders and went drinking. Had such a good time, he's such an entertaining and witty individual with charisma flowing out of every pore.
a very tragic anniversary. I am sorry. I would love to see some pictures or hear his music....sean- loganandkrista@hotmail.com hope to hear from you soon.
I have been thinking about Cian a lot lately and wrote his name into google hoping someone set up somewhere online to say hi to, or to feel like I could connect with him somehow. Sean, if you still write to this please email me fionalouise@eircom.net I promised you I would write a letter telling you stories about Cian that I told you at the funeral. I haven't forgotten. If you email me I will send them on to you. I was hoping maybe you would have photos of Cian you could email me? All I have is a gig ticket and a photo of a birthday party (Paul Farrells 14th) with Cian in the backround, and a hell of a lot of great memories!! My Love to Everybody, Fiona x
Cian's 25th birthday passed on Saturday. We had a very successful Golf Classic in his memory and raised €27000 for charity. He would have been very proud! We were. Mam and dad
Hi I met Cian in Irish college in 1995 and we became life long friends and shared some great memories. In recent years our conversations came less often but we always knew no matter how much time passed we could pick up the phone or white and it would feel like we spoke just yesterday. That was the type of guy Cian was. Every Christmas Cian would call my mam and "auntie Margaret" and say happy Christmas but for the past two he had not. I got chatting with my mum about Cian and the times he stayed at my house and the laughs and upsets we had and we realised he hadn't called in a while so I decided to search for him on bebo (cause if anyone had a site there Cian would) and moan about the lack of contact. I regret to say I have only just learned of what happened and am deeply shocked & saddened if I had just picked up the phone a long time ago... Cian was the best kinda friend you could want if you needed him he would be there if you needed cheering up he would make you laugh and if you cried he would hug you and tell you it would be ok.. Last night I went through all the letters and the photo for the family portrait he sent me and just cried. You will always be loved and missed. Rachel
Rachel, We wondered about you... so sorry you had to find out that way...but Cian's death was all over the papers for all the wrong reasons...He died from a massive heart attack in Barcelona where he was with his chinese wife Sunny on december 30 2005....our lives are totally shattered...email me at seanodiomasaigh@eircom.net... Seán Cian's Dad...thanks for your kind words.
I worked with Cian a number of times over the years and just wanted to say what a great character he was, a really unique guy who you just can't help but think about often. i was on honeymoon when he passed away and was very shocked when i returned to hear the news. RIP dude, may his family take comfort in knowing that he lived his life to the absolute full and enjoyed every second. G.
Sean & Family, thinking of you, was in Eire recently, viewed photos of Cian as a toddler at Josies place in Cullinagh. Cian was one of Josies favourite great nephews. Am sure they both enjoying life with other family members and friends on the other side. Take heart, you will be united one day, and until then , rejoice in the happy memories.
Coming near Cian's second anniversary...such a sad time for us all...trying to let go but cant...he was so special and we miss him so much...love Mam dad Cormac and Cliona
Cian 26th birthday passed 14th April 2008. This year's Charity Golf Classic was very successful. Cian's Granny Maureen Larkin passed away on Sunday 20th April at the age of 88. We hope they are together.
Life goes on and Cian's 4th anniversary passed on 30th December. A cheque for €10,000 was given to the Gary Kelly Cancer Unit proceeds of the Cian Dempsey Annual Golf Classic in his memory. Loved and missed daily. Dad, Mam, Cormac and Cliona.
4 years. Im glad to hear of the Cian Dempsey Annual Golf Classic doing so well. I hope peace comes now and again. Is there a memorial site where we/I could see photos. It really would be so nice. Blessings to Sean, Mam, Cormac and Cliona
Its so strange not a day go's by that I dont think about you, it seem's like forever since I last saw you and a lifetime since I first met you. I have so much I'd like to tell you, I miss you so much... All my love Rachel x
My thoughts are always with you all Seán
My email is rachel_outram@hotmail.com if you ever need a chat.
Cian and I became fast friends when he was in Thailand. Our first conversation was with him and Robbie was on the subject of George W. Bush. This was around the time of his re-election campaign during the Iraq War. Asking me what America should do in Iraq, I said "Pull out all the troops, apologize, start kicking money out of helicopters, and parachute Bush into Fallujah with a target on his back." He had a laugh at that one.
Another time, he wanted me to show him self defense moves on the beach at 3 in the morning. We were out there in the sand, goofing around, chucking each other into the sand. We followed that up with some beers with Robbie and Barry.
Cian tried to develop this eye trick with me where we could signal each other what playing card we were holding. We were so obvious that it didn't take long for others to catch on.
I played in a Texas Hold-Em poker game with Cian. He loved to bluff and up the ante.
His last night on Koh Phangan, we went out for drinks at a bar in Thong Sala.
After Cian went back to Ireland, we continued to e-mail each other while I was still in Thailand. When I went back to the U.S., he called me in California.
Cian was one of the best friends I made while traveling and always hoped to see again.
It hurt to hear the news. The summer of 2004 was one of the best times of my life and Cian was a part of that. His wit and charm did make him a star.
i had a dream about cian last night it was the first time i saw his face since 2001,we were really good friends, but we lost contact due to a stupid row, i did not know cian had passed until 2008 so when i found out it hit me really hard. we lived together for a good while and spent our time messing around and trying to come up with get rich quick schemes, in the few years i knew cian we formed a strong friendship, i miss him and feel for his family as a death is something you never get over, you just get use to it. goodbye friend maybe i will see you in another dream,...... Alan E.
Cian's 10th anniversary passed 30th December... Just another day for some, the beginning of a long and sad life for his family. Missed everyday Cian! Dad Mam Cormac and Clíona.
I am really touched by the words so many people have about your son Cian. Though I never knew him personally but from the words expressed from their hearts by so many of those who knew him closely, I feel Cian must have been a really lovable boy with a lot of potential and a flair for friendship. However it seems that God has taken him away at a very young age before he could realise all his full potential. The fact however remains that in his short life span he touched the hearts of so many. I join you and your family in praying for his soul.
With warm regards
Ashok D Shetty 9821039980 e-mail: adshetty51@yahoo.com
This was my dumb blog, from before social media was a thing.
I've had some ups and some harsh downs in my life since, I had some ups and in retrospect trivial downs in my relations with Cian while I knew him, but I still remember him and always will. He was a force of nature, he won't be forgotten.
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I once had a friend die. It's funny, you never once think that it would happen to you, as I am sure the person who passed thought. He hung himself from a tree, in the woods behind a place that our friends gathered every Friday night for bonfires and booze. The reason for this, no one knows but him, as he knew all to well. I don't think I ever looked at life in the same way after hearing the phone ring that day. There are no words of comfort, no memories, good and bad, that don't make you cry at the most awkward of times. All you can do is whatever gets you through the day. I used to dream about him, like he was still here. I don't dream about him anymore, partially because it hurt too much at the time. But now I find myself wanting those dreams back. So I guess the only thought I have is to not ever push the thoughts and dreams away. To drudge through them until you can smile. The pain never goes away, just stops hurting so much.
Wow. I'm an American that met Cian in Thailand. He was a great guy and a good friend.
Mannnnnnnnnn, I love Cian, he was so cool. We were going to open a bar on Koh Phanghan with that bastard, We still tell Cian stories on the Island. He was legendary on his visit and we all just loved him so much. Damm
keep cian's memory alive...dad...he would have been 24 on friday 14th april
Tell the stories...
Happy Birthday Cian whereever you are. Dad Mam Cormac and Clíona
Cousin Cian, rest in peace, all is well. I never had the pleasure of meeting you, but your Grandad John, and my Mom Josie were brother & Sister. Happy belated B'day, and enjoy your new eternal Life, God Bless, love Kathleen (Brosnan) O'Malley xxx
I came back to this page because its my only connect with Cian. The additional comments were a sweet surprise, bringing tears I couldn't stop. I was just wondering, what happened to Robbie? I thought they were best friends, He was supposed to get in touch with us. Is anyone available to pass this on to him? I have a message about his Sensi. It would be really cool to hear some of Cian's music, any help on that? Blessings to the family, Cian will always be a shining star.
Krista,
Robbie was Cian's best man when he married Sunny from China in April 2004 just before he travelled to Thailand. If you have an address we can keep in touch. I will pass on your remarks... have you an email....? Cian's Dad
I grew up with Cian in Trim. He was an amazing person. In my whole life i've met two people who could genuinely be rock stars, and Cian was one of them.
I remember about a year ago and i met him in Bus Aras. we were so busy chatting that the last bus home departed without us. We just shrugged our shoulders and went drinking. Had such a good time, he's such an entertaining and witty individual with charisma flowing out of every pore.
Good luck Cian, you were a real inspiration.
Nev
Cians dad. oh man. I was thinking of you yesterday. I'm sorry.
please contact me on www.myspace.com/sweetnepenthe
ollie, whats up with your blog?
krista...trying to join your space.....sean...cian's dad
I also was a good friend of Cians many years ago. Havent seen him the last few years but still will be very much missed. A unique guy.
hello,
is anybody out there? Cian's Dad here......missing him so much....
Cian's dad- please email me at loganandkrista at hotmail. I tried myspace and an alt email.
Logan krista...I'm trying...what is exact email
Seán
It has been a year since cian died...his heaven has been our hell.....love sean..cian's dad
a very tragic anniversary. I am sorry. I would love to see some pictures or hear his music....sean- loganandkrista@hotmail.com hope to hear from you soon.
Hey Everybody,
I have been thinking about Cian a lot lately and wrote his name into google hoping someone set up somewhere online to say hi to, or to feel like I could connect with him somehow.
Sean, if you still write to this please email me fionalouise@eircom.net I promised you I would write a letter telling you stories about Cian that I told you at the funeral. I haven't forgotten. If you email me I will send them on to you. I was hoping maybe you would have photos of Cian you could email me? All I have is a gig ticket and a photo of a birthday party (Paul Farrells 14th) with Cian in the backround, and a hell of a lot of great memories!!
My Love to Everybody,
Fiona x
Cian's 25th birthday passed on Saturday. We had a very successful Golf Classic in his memory and raised €27000 for charity. He would have been very proud!
We were. Mam and dad
Hi I met Cian in Irish college in 1995 and we became life long friends and shared some great memories. In recent years our conversations came less often but we always knew no matter how much time passed we could pick up the phone or white and it would feel like we spoke just yesterday. That was the type of guy Cian was. Every Christmas Cian would call my mam and "auntie Margaret" and say happy Christmas but for the past two he had not. I got chatting with my mum about Cian and the times he stayed at my house and the laughs and upsets we had and we realised he hadn't called in a while so I decided to search for him on bebo (cause if anyone had a site there Cian would) and moan about the lack of contact. I regret to say I have only just learned of what happened and am deeply shocked & saddened if I had just picked up the phone a long time ago... Cian was the best kinda friend you could want if you needed him he would be there if you needed cheering up he would make you laugh and if you cried he would hug you and tell you it would be ok.. Last night I went through all the letters and the photo for the family portrait he sent me and just cried. You will always be loved and missed. Rachel
Rachel,
We wondered about you... so sorry you had to find out that way...but Cian's death was all over the papers for all the wrong reasons...He died from a massive heart attack in Barcelona where he was with his chinese wife Sunny on december 30 2005....our lives are totally shattered...email me at seanodiomasaigh@eircom.net... Seán Cian's Dad...thanks for your kind words.
I worked with Cian a number of times over the years and just wanted to say what a great character he was, a really unique guy who you just can't help but think about often. i was on honeymoon when he passed away and was very shocked when i returned to hear the news. RIP dude, may his family take comfort in knowing that he lived his life to the absolute full and enjoyed every second. G.
Sean & Family, thinking of you, was in Eire recently, viewed photos of Cian as a toddler at Josies place in Cullinagh. Cian was one of Josies favourite great nephews. Am sure they both enjoying life with other family members and friends on the other side. Take heart, you will be united one day, and until then , rejoice in the happy memories.
Coming near Cian's second anniversary...such a sad time for us all...trying to let go but cant...he was so special and we miss him so much...love Mam dad Cormac and Cliona
Cian 26th birthday passed 14th April 2008. This year's Charity Golf Classic was very successful. Cian's Granny Maureen Larkin passed away on Sunday 20th April at the age of 88. We hope they are together.
Cian's 3rd anniversary passed 30 Jan 2009. He is greatly missed and loved by us his Mam, Dad Cormac and Cliona.
Dad
Still thinking of you often and miss you loads Cian. F x
Life goes on and Cian's 4th anniversary passed on 30th December. A cheque for €10,000 was given to the Gary Kelly Cancer Unit proceeds of the Cian Dempsey Annual Golf Classic in his memory. Loved and missed daily. Dad, Mam, Cormac and Cliona.
4 years. Im glad to hear of the Cian Dempsey Annual Golf Classic doing so well. I hope peace comes now and again. Is there a memorial site where we/I could see photos. It really would be so nice. Blessings to Sean, Mam, Cormac and Cliona
Its so strange not a day go's by that I dont think about you, it seem's like forever since I last saw you and a lifetime since I first met you. I have so much I'd like to tell you, I miss you so much... All my love Rachel x
My thoughts are always with you all Seán
My email is rachel_outram@hotmail.com if you ever need a chat.
Cian and I became fast friends when he was in Thailand. Our first conversation was with him and Robbie was on the subject of George W. Bush. This was around the time of his re-election campaign during the Iraq War. Asking me what America should do in Iraq, I said "Pull out all the troops, apologize, start kicking money out of helicopters, and parachute Bush into Fallujah with a target on his back." He had a laugh at that one.
Another time, he wanted me to show him self defense moves on the beach at 3 in the morning. We were out there in the sand, goofing around, chucking each other into the sand. We followed that up with some beers with Robbie and Barry.
Cian tried to develop this eye trick with me where we could signal each other what playing card we were holding. We were so obvious that it didn't take long for others to catch on.
I played in a Texas Hold-Em poker game with Cian. He loved to bluff and up the ante.
His last night on Koh Phangan, we went out for drinks at a bar in Thong Sala.
After Cian went back to Ireland, we continued to e-mail each other while I was still in Thailand. When I went back to the U.S., he called me in California.
Cian was one of the best friends I made while traveling and always hoped to see again.
It hurt to hear the news. The summer of 2004 was one of the best times of my life and Cian was a part of that. His wit and charm did make him a star.
Thanks for those happy memories. Cian's 7th anniversary was on December 30th. He is still missed each day.
Dad
i had a dream about cian last night it was the first time i saw his face since 2001,we were really good friends, but we lost contact due to a stupid row, i did not know cian had passed until 2008 so when i found out it hit me really hard. we lived together for a good while and spent our time messing around and trying to come up with get rich quick schemes, in the few years i knew cian we formed a strong friendship, i miss him and feel for his family as a death is something you never get over, you just get use to it. goodbye friend
maybe i will see you in another dream,...... Alan E.
Never forgotten Cian ... 9 years of loss .. 30th December 2014 .. Love and miss you . Dad mam Cormac cliona and sunny and all the family
Cian's 10th anniversary passed 30th December... Just another day for some, the beginning of a long and sad life for his family. Missed everyday Cian! Dad Mam Cormac and Clíona.
04.01.2019
Dear Sean & Cliona,
Greetings from Mumbai, India !!!
I am really touched by the words so many people have about your son Cian. Though I never knew him personally but from the words expressed from their hearts by so many of those who knew him closely, I feel Cian must have been a really lovable boy with a lot of potential and a flair for friendship. However it seems that God has taken him away at a very young age before he could realise all his full potential. The fact however remains that in his short life span he touched the hearts of so many. I join you and your family in praying for his soul.
With warm regards
Ashok D Shetty
9821039980
e-mail: adshetty51@yahoo.com
This was my dumb blog, from before social media was a thing.
I've had some ups and some harsh downs in my life since, I had some ups and in retrospect trivial downs in my relations with Cian while I knew him, but I still remember him and always will. He was a force of nature, he won't be forgotten.
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